In the tide of the pandemic that global society is facing, it is easy to let oneself wander into a mind-space of despair and self judgement.
Are we finding ourselves giving in to the fear that is bombarding our consciousness from all corners? Are we slipping into a depressive slump as we find ourselves surrounded by expectations coming from all the corners in our life – including our own expectations of ourselves?
Perhaps you want to feel hopeful and less fearful. Perhaps you want to grasp this opportunity to fall into your passions and hobbies but cannot shift out of the headspace of turmoil. Perhaps you desire to be less tense about everything. Perhaps everything is too loud.
Many are losing family members. Many are losing jobs. Many are losing hope. Many are losing themselves.
I’m writing because I want to share what helps me in times of turmoil, and hopefully it could you, too. If I find myself in a turmoiled headspace, with dark clouds of depression, anxiety and unease surrounding me, wanting to be happy and hopeful ends up amplifying the feelings of dread.
All social and news media platforms right now are pumping out waves and waves of reports, misinformation and statistics. If you aren’t witnessing news media content, perhaps you are reading first hand horror reports from survivors or victims of this virus.
Or perhaps you are witnessing another side, a ‘positive’ perspective side. Positivity is an amazing energy we create. (In a beautiful way, by creating the label positivity, we unintentionally create the label negativity.)
I have scrolled through countless posts on social media saying that this change is good. That this change is what we need. That this change is giving us the opportunity to go within and spend time on ourselves and in our passions. These perspectives are correct, but you may be finding them to cause you more pain than salvation.
I’m here to tell you that however you are feeling, it is okay.
Resisting a negative feeling or experience creates a negative experience. Accepting a negative feeling or experience creates a positive experience.
What’s going on in the world right now is out of our control. What’s going on inside of us right now, we can accept. If how you feel right now is horrible, then let it be horrible. The acceptance of our inner state is the first step to liberating ourselves from it. Realize that the way you feel now is the only feeling you could be experiencing, because it is the feeling you are experiencing.
Are you feeling demotivated? It is okay. Are you feeling scared of what may happen? It is okay, feel scared, it is scary times. Are you feeling depressed or anxious? It is okay, feel it deeply. Denying how we feel buries the emotion until it explodes later on. By facing our feelings now, we will begin the process of liberation. Being human is tough, and we are flowing down life’s unknown river. We have oars and a boat, but we cannot beat the current of life.
Do not let social media or the news control how you feel. The truth is nobody knows what the wake of this will bring. It could bring suffering or it could bring salvation. The outcome will always bring the positive and negative. Speculating can be fun, or it could bring feelings of distress. Accept that this is out of your control. Accept that no human being knows what will happen next. Accept how you are feeling because you are allowed to feel that way. If you see people on Instagram handing this pandemic in a way that seems impossibly well, do not compare your backstage preparation to their frontstage performance. Everybody is in this together.
I hope you find comfort in these words. I wish you happiness and liberation from suffering during these times, and I wish you safety.
May we accept our Selves.